It’s Hard To Trust Gay White Men

Gay white men have a tendency to latch onto their homosexuality when they are asked to be held accountable for their whiteness.

James Woods
5 min readDec 20, 2020
Photo by Brian Kyed on Unsplash

I remember my first crush in elementary school was on a white boy. There was something so alluring and charming about him and white boys in general. The idea of dating any other race didn’t even cross my mind. Middle and high school would see me having crushes on just white boys. By the time I got to college and started to use dating apps like Grindr and Tinder, my preferences were pretty set on white men. It’s not that I didn’t find other races to be attractive, I just always wanted to be with a white man.

Being a poor college student who was lucky to have $20 in their bank account at a given moment, my dates were usually very low-key and simple. By the time I turned 21, happy hours became my best friend because it allowed for us to have 2 hours to drink and eat cheaply and quickly figure out if this was going to go anywhere or not. My fascination with white men meant that all of my dates were with them.

Around 22 is when I had a blossoming of sorts and began to get lots of interest from people on dating apps. It wasn’t uncommon to go on and see 10+ messages. A common pattern began to emerge as I saw that I almost always only…

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James Woods
James Woods

Written by James Woods

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